Friday, August 8, 2008


So one of my favorite movies is Fried Green Tomatoes.. "The secret is in the sauce. I know you're shaking your head- but it's a good movie. I love movies about Southern women. I have a theory.. women from up north well they are sassy.. Women from the South, well we've got spunk. Idgy Threadgood in Fried Green Tomatoes has got the spunk part down.. But one of my favoritest lines in the movie is when Jessica Tandy's character tells Kathy Bates .. "you need to get yourself some hormones and some girlfriends.." I'm so glad I have mine.. the pic to the right is just a few of them- but I'm lucky to have amazing women in my life. I wish that they all saw how great I think they are.. they are all entirely too hard on themselves. I look around at the women I know and think "You're pretty amazing.." So I make it my thing to try to tell one of the amazing women in my life something positive everyday. " You look great in that color.. You're an awesome Mom.. You're having a good hair day.."

I have girlfriends who are like 2nd moms to me, and girlfriends that have struggled with addiction. I have girlfriends that are "power women" and girlfriends who are stay at home moms. Some of my girlfriends have committed partners and some of them are married. Some are single... or are soon to be married. I treasure them all... my eclectic group of friends. When I've been at my lowest it's these women who've picked me up most often. My mom gave me very valuable advice when I started in my 1st serious relationship a long time ago... she encouraged me to maintain those friendships and not let myself get all consumed with the business of a relationship. I'm glad I've taken that advice to heart- because well, where would I be right now if i hadn't maintained friendships?

I certainly wouldn't be sitting at my computer with my jaw sort of aching from laughing so much over sushi, martinis and a movie...I wouldn't have had them calling me often just to check in and make stupid conversation with me.... I wouldn't have felt prayers and gentle support. I think as women we're more supportive of each other because-well we know what it's like to feel alone or unappreciated or isolated as mothers, sisters daughters, & wives. Sometimes the best thing we can do for a friend is make them laugh or remind them that they are not alone...or tell them that they are amazing.

My closest friends, well we sort of have a pact. We don't get angry about forgetting to return a phone call, or being a few minutes late, or messing up on the little stuff. Life is too rough for us not to offer the other complete support. We often joke... You're really someone's freind if you'd bail them out of jail, not ask any questions and not tell a soul. And then we joke about adjoining rooms in the nursing home...

So in the midst of the randomness I hope you can see that this is a blog to celebrate those female relationships that we all need to struggle through all things relational. So go on..get yourself some girlfriends... and laugh. Then go snuggle up to your men.

I've got a date with my man: TiVo. Holla!